As believers, we are called to share the gospel with those around us (Matthew 28:19-20). It’s a command, not a suggestion—meaning that we are in sin if we aren’t sharing the gospel.
But I have such a hard time doing that.
It’s not because I don’t believe that Jesus is real and God’s word is true (I do). It’s because it doesn’t come to me naturally. But more than that, it’s because I choose not to trust that God will give me the words to say. It’s because I don’t rely on the power of the Holy Spirit as much as I should. It’s because I so. often. forget all the things God has done and all the ways He’s proved himself faithful. It’s because I’m more concerned with my current comfort than someone else’s eternity.
That was blunt and vulnerable, but honestly, I’m tired of beating around the bush when it comes to why I don’t share the gospel as much as I should.
Late last year, I decided to do something about that. For me personally, sharing the gospel is easiest when I have some sort of a relationship with someone, so I figured, why not start building relationships with people I don’t know? Since I can work anywhere there is wifi, a friend suggested that I work from Starbucks one day each week. Same day, same time. Hopefully, same people.
To me, that was a win-win situation. I could justify getting Starbucks at least once a week, get out of the house, and build relationships with people outside my normal social circles.
It was great at first. I was friendly, just establishing a relationship as a “regular.” Nothing more. No pressure. All good, right?
But I know myself well enough to know that I can very easily stay in this “honeymoon” phase of “being nice” for far too long, justifying it in my head by saying “I’m just building relationships right now!”. I started to worry about getting stagnant. I told my friend about my concern one November evening as we sat around a bonfire. (That sounds really dramatic. It wasn’t.) Then she suggested asking a question that, quite honestly, changed everything for me. (Okay—that was more dramatic. But true.)
“Is there anything I can be praying to God about for you?”
She suggested asking it to the barista who takes my order. Their answer to that question would help me get to know them better, and I can use that to start building a better relationship with them. It was a way I could lay a concrete foundation for gospel conversations, but also care for them right now.
It still isn’t easy (and I’ve chickened out more than a few times), but I started asking that question after I placed my order.
Sometimes it’s awkward because they don’t understand what I’m asking and I have to quickly clarify before the next person places their order, but it’s been incredible to see how God has worked through that one question.
One barista in particular was touched by the question. I don’t think she’s a believer, but she has given me several things to pray about…some more personal and vulnerable. I had the opportunity to actually pray with her one time (another God story—I was praying beforehand that she would be my barista, and by the time I got in line, no one was behind me!), and have been able to build a relationship that could very easily lead to gospel conversations down the road. This whole corona thing has thrown it off since I haven’t been inside a Starbucks in almost two months, but I’m looking forward to the day I can reconnect with her.
I’m not saying this to demonstrate how good I am (I’m not). Honestly, without the encouragement from my friends, I might not have moved forward with this conviction. It’s not easy (I get nervous every. time. I. ask.). But asking that question, “how can I be praying for you?” has changed everything for me. I don’t just ask it to baristas, but I’ve asked it to other people I’ve come in contact with, as well—believers or non-believers. Sometimes I’m able to briefly pray with them right then and there; other times I pray later. But that one question has opened up opportunities that I didn’t think would be there, and my hope is that, over time and with consistency, it becomes a natural part of my day.
Would you join me in asking that question to those you come in contact with, and then being open to building relationships with them to share the gospel? And would you join me in praying for my barista friend?